What to Do When You Receive a Complaint About the Conduct of your Child in the Classroom
As a teacher I have had many cases when talking to parents about inappropriate behavior of your child in the classroom have felt very uncomfortable because they are directly affected and feel that puts you doubt your ability as parents but there are strengths the favor in this topic:
1. Nobody was born knowing how to be Father and No Child Is Perfect:
There are behaviors that we can not realizing perhaps the love we have for our children and that a new group, in different circumstances not previously experienced by the child and under the guidance of a prepared and experienced person can come to light; rather we should take into account the comments we welcome you are given is because the smaller the child is easier to correct what must be corrected.
2. Case significantly Improve Behavior Problems When Parents Have Made the Necessary Changes in House:
While it is important to involve the psychologist when a child has a behavioral problem, depending on the case, can not see the psychologist as the magic answer to the problem of our child, when one spider in the classroom child or another child is not tolerant with others or does not obey orders first thing parents should do is look at what might be the causes that cause these behaviors based on their own review before them; example: I had a four year old boy hitting the other children every day and although corrective measures were taken in the classroom the child's behavior did not improve, to talk to the mother about what was happening I realized that the child He is doing the same at home with their brothers who were older than him because the mother is permitted under the pretense that he was the child at home, ie to the mother that her son is the child gave him free right to strike others learned at home that message as finished projecting in the classroom; guidelines were given to the mother on how to teach your child principles such as respect for others that should be practiced in the home and improve your child's behavior in the classroom.
✓ Parents can not delegate its primary responsibility as guides in training their children, for example on several occasions I have heard from some parents: "When Carlos go to school there they are going to teach good behavior and Rosa whoHe is carrying nearly as and when it was changed to school "; although if Pepito is based on a truth it is not complete because the child to be a larger group than is used and under certain principles to be followed is able to self-regulate their behavior but that does not mean we should wait until the child enters school for just learn to follow principles that will avoid dangerous situations and ultimately benefit greatly where it unfolds.
✓ Avoid victimizing your child, not always circumstances or other people are responsible for the acts of his child; for example, if it bit his partner because he took his lunch box then you should talk to the teacher to take the necessary steps with the other child not happen again but they have an excuse to act does not mean your child left without correction, which should be corrected is their reaction which was not appropriate since there had to bite his companion, is more should be taught from childhood to be accountable to enable you to respond in front of the difficulties that are submitted because what he should have done was tell the professor that his companion was bothering him for the support of her he did not allow him to take his lunchbox speaking firmly.
✓ If you have questions about the report of the conduct of your child watch it at home but in such situations that the problem occurred for example: when in group play with friends if the problem was with some of his colleagues as well You can also realize perhaps things that the teacher has not noticed as your child is not the one with the problem, but another child bothers you or that the conduct was because your child learned something at home you thought was right but actually it is not as for example: a father playing with his son to wrestling very crudely and in the classroom the child does the same in the classroom and without misconduct strip down to others.
✓ If the problem behavior occurs between the child and the teacher then watch how your child behaves with you. Would you obey at home without having to repeat several times the same order or shout ?, remember that the classroom is a different environment the house, there your child is not alone and are more than ten children, imagine ten do not obey the orders of the teacher, not only could not learn it would also be a risk to their safety.
✓ Having constant contact with the teacher because it shows interest on their part in contributing to the formation of your child and also very importantly, would realize if the teacher presents inconsistencies; for example, a teacher who complain daily of a child but does not give the necessary guidelines to achieve behavioral change often attacking him and not the problem directly, a teacher who isolates your child permanently excluding him without any valid reason group or marginalizes certain way and without informing the reasons for their decisions despite you if you are taking the necessary measures in place to correct the behavior.