Helping Our Children Get Over Frustration Tantrums

Frustration is an emotion that occurs in children not only when they cannot achieve something but also when they think they cannot achieve it and it is accompanied by a feeling of sadness, disappointment and disappointment that often manifests itself in tantrums. Parents can help our children positively overcome this type of situation by implementing some very simple tips:


1- Predict:
That is, in the face of a situation where we know that our child will not respond, such as when a three-year-old is frustrated by not being able to build a tower of cubes and throws them in protest, Although we must correct the behavior of the tantrum we must anticipate to try not to incur it, usually the tantrum arises after some failed attempts to achieve something, so we must support it to achieve either by giving appropriate directions or intervening slyly.

2- Motivate:
It is important always to encourage it with words like: very well, you can, you do excellent, you are a champion, etc.; Congratulate him for the effort rather than the achievement, for example, in the case of notes if your child struggled to study but his grade was not very outstanding yet to let him know that you are happy with his grade.

3- Reflect:
Teaching our children correctly to recognize their weaknesses will help them to accept, to love and to be tolerant with others; For example: A 3-year-old is able to assemble a puzzle of few pieces so the only thing he can do with one of 500 will be to cause disorder and lose many of the pieces, therefore we must teach him that there will be a moment when you can put it together and that you will be supporting it when it is from that moment.

4- Communicate:
Explain that you should communicate properly, that is, instead of reneging or throwing things should learn to ask for help, to ask about something that alone cannot achieve this will avoid tantrums and teach you to mature.

5- Example:
If when you have a problem you have inappropriate behavior such as throwing on the table, screaming, etc., or a child who admires and is watching you think that it is right to do tantrums and will be very difficult to stop doing them, so parents should look after our reactions to our children.


Rosanna Sakuma Arevalo
Master in Educational Administration

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